My reading of your plan is that it sounds like a movie shot, what I mean is that it will have to be staged. I don't understand what you mean when you say it bulges in and out? I've taken video of a new moon rising when it's all orange and eerie looking and it looks alright, so could you explain that. Depending on what software you have you might be able to get a really good close up of the moon (depending on the zoom size on your camera) and then combine it will your female talent standing with her arms out. Will she have her back to the camera for the entire shot or will you be cutting/dissolving to a shot of her face with the moonlight on it?

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