First post for me but this one irked me...

Did you sign any kind of contract with him at all? I'm a very enthusiastic semi-pro and even when I do a (very rare) freebie for friends, I tend to get them to sign a contract just to cover my back...

As was said by Mark W - "you are the customer, it's your wedding". The number one mantra for anyone in this line of work surely? I would say 90% of my work is word of mouth and I would be horrified if I had a complaint like that!

If he won't release the masters to you, ask him how much it would be to just run off all the uneditied footage on to DVD for you - not ideal but at least then you can have a go at re-editing it for yourself...

By the way, I'm speaking as someone who films weddings as well as having just booked a videographer for my own wedding next year...